Most likely your spamassassin is getting a -10 score because your sending FROM a TRUSTED server. So, it will not be flagged as spam unless you have your settings different then the default. Two ways to test this, change the score to a huge number, say 25, or follow the directions below.
I made the following change to /etc/amavisd.conf
$sa_tag_level_deflt = -9000;
This will add spamassassin header information to all emails, not just the ones that it thinks may be spam. After you make this change, restart amavisd again. Send yourself an email again, this time look at the all the headers. You should see TOM_TO_EQ_FR mentioned in the spamaassasin area.